If you’re trying to figure out your partner’s ring size for a surprise proposal but have no idea where to start… you’re not alone. The average ring size in the US is a size 6… is your partner below that? Above that? How much below or above? Do half sizes exist? AH!! Don’t stress, we’ve put together a list of our top tips for figuring out her size without ruining the surprise!
Starting with the easiest, most straight forward option:
Use one of their other rings to get a ballpark size.
If your partner is out of town, out at dinner, or you know they won’t notice one of their rings missing… you can take a ring out of their jewelry box to help. From there, you can either take it to a jeweler to get sized, order a ring sizer online (amazon sells them cheaply!), or use a pen and paper. If using a pen and paper, trace the inside of the ring on a piece of paper and then take that in to a jeweler who can measure the diameter and tell you the ring’s size!
Phone a friend or family member.
A lot of women will have already discussed their ring size with a close friend, sister, or mother. So it may just be as easy as calling and asking! If they don’t know, it will probably be easier than you think for them to slip the topic of “ring size” into conversation. It could be as easy as a friend and your partner going to the mall and “spontaneously” deciding to go into a jewelry store to try on some “dream rings”! Or, your partner’s best friend could just flat out ask them their ring size. She could say, “I know at some point you and Tom are going to get engaged and he’ll probably need to know your ring size. I’m not saying it’s coming any time soon, but just so I’m prepared when the time comes!”. Being this direct may actually throw your partner off!
Size Her Finger Yourself.
This one’s tricky… and you’ll have to be really stealthy… but if your partner is a heavy sleeper, you can try to size it yourself! Grab a piece of string, twine, or fishing line, and wrap it around their ring finger… take this to a jeweler and there you go! It may take a couple of attempts to get it right, but it could be a hilarious story down the road.
All that being said, don’t stress. Whether you manage to get the size right or not, rings can be resized. We always recommend that you go bigger than smaller when in doubt (just to make sure she can actually slip the ring on when you propose!). Frankly, a lot of women who actually KNOW their ring size and order that size, end up needing to get their ring resized. Finger sizes can fluctuate so much, depending on whether you measured it when it was hot outside (finger will be bigger), cold (finger will be smaller), if you had salt that day (finger will be bigger), if you just exercised (finger will be bigger), etc. The only rings that cannot be resized are eternity bands (where the gemstones go all the way around, no metal is exposed). For that reason, we recommend being ABSOLUTELY sure of your size before ordering an eternity band.
Thanks for reading and if you have any sizing questions, or want to run any ideas by us… don’t hesitate to reach out! help@rachelandvictoria.com
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